Quotes With Meaning
You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?
You’ll get over it…” It’s the clichés that cause the trouble. To lose someone you love is to alter your life for ever. You don’t get over it because ‘it” is the person you loved. The pain stops, there are new people, but the gap never closes. How could it? The particularness of someone who mattered enough to grieve over is not made anodyne by death. This hole in my heart is in the shape of you and no-one else can fit it. Why would I want them to?
Jeanette Winterson's words resonate deeply with anyone who has experienced loss. When we lose someone we cherish, we don’t just move on; we carry a unique emptiness that remains. The pain may fade over time, but the love and memories of that person shape who we are. This ‘gap’ is a testament to the significance of our relationships. Each person leaves behind a specific imprint in our hearts that nobody else can fill. The lesson here is profound: embracing our grief is part of honoring the love we shared. Rather than seeking to fill the void, we should recognize and cherish the impact that person had on our lives. Ultimately, it’s about growth through remembrance, and understanding that our values and connections define us.