When I look at a person—at Zane in this case—I think I am seeing Zane. But what I am missing is the fact I am seeing Zane. And since I am the person who is seeing, I'm not seeing a world that is separate from me but am rather seeing my own interaction with the world. So, what I'm seeing is not Zane per se, but rather my relational intersection with him. In fact, relationality goes even further than that. It's not just that I am seeing Zane; it's also that I'm seeing a Zane who is in response to me.
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